If I had my child to raise over again

I’ve had this poem since I was pregnant with my first baby.  I keep it on my fridge as a reminder of what’s really important in raising  children.   It’s a good reminder for days (like today *sigh*) where you are struggling to just get through the day with your kids.



If I Had My Child To Raise Over Again

By Diana Loomans, Parent Partners, Davidson, NC

If I had my child to raise over again,

I’d do less correcting, and more connecting.

I’d take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.

I would care to know less and know to care more.

I’d take more hikes and fly more kites.

I’d stop playing serious, and seriously play.

I’d run through more fields and gaze at more stars.

I’d do more hugging, and less tugging.

I would be firm less often, and affirm much more.

I’d build self-esteem first, and the house later.

I’d teach less about the love of power, and more about the power of love.

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  1. April Todd says:

    I love this poem…so true!

  2. Sara Schrock says:

    I love this poem–I’m going to print it off and put it on my fridge too! I so needed this today–thank you!