Description: In this episode, Kelli interviews motivational influencer Melisa Osmond who discusses the ups and downs of parenting and the best ways to influence yourself and your loved ones to recognize your self-worth.
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Melisa is a mother and a friend who has begun to center her life around self-worth and helping others see themselves as worth something, too. When Melisa was asked by a friend to help her daughter during a tough emotional time, she realized that this was something that she really enjoyed and felt that she had a powerful message to send, especially to young women. Melisa has held numerous events to bring together tweens, teens, and their moms to serve as a confidence-building expo. These events have shown to be beneficial to young girls in so many ways and Melisa strives to keep this project growing.
Melisa is a mother of her own teens, so she has been made well aware of the situations that teenagers face in everyday life. She knows that there’s bullying and pressure to fit in and she had experienced the same thing in her own experiences as a teenager, but she really delves into how the pressures of being a teenager have changed so much. Social media is the biggest factor in how teens relate in society and it has caused so many more obstacles in their lives compared to when Melisa was a teenager. She has found that instead of trying to combat the ways that social media influences her teens at home and how they communicate with their peers, she has shaped the idea of social media into a positive outlet for expression. She encourages people to teach their kids the best ways to use social media and to filter the content they come across so that they’re being exposed to appropriate material.
What You Think of Yourself Is The Only Thing That Matters
One of the hardest things about being a part of society is understanding where you fit into the grand scheme of things. Growing through your teenage years is stressful because you’re surrounded by all of these outside influences that make you question almost all of your choices up until that point in your life. Teens are faced with trying to decide who they are as people and that’s hard to figure out at such a young, developmental age. Melisa encourages her kids to genuinely only care about what they think. She also urges adults to do the same, as she knows that many people struggle well into adulthood with self-confidence. Melisa says “Confidence is ‘you are amazing, and so am I’, instead of putting yourself down to make them feel better, or any aspect of that.”
Being a parent does not come with instructions. Often we find ourselves learning so much about our own minds and emotions while we teach our children about theirs. It’s so important to understand that your children are influenced by everything they see in this world. With social media at their fingertips, they’re so easily subjected to feelings of inadequacy and jealousy. Melisa explains that you have such a strong influence on your children, so you should use that to their advantage. Your kids take what you say to heart, good and bad. It’s so important to consistently remind your children that they’re capable of deciding who they are before the world decides for them. This goes along with the idea that only your own opinion of yourself is what matters, but it’s a more direct way of influencing them.
One of Melisa’s focal points of her mindset Is to focus on what type of thoughts you allow to influence your choices and decisions. She thinks it’s so important to understand that a positive thought is so much more powerful than a negative one because it can open your mind to a different perspective. Negative self-talk is so simple because it is one of your mind’s default modes. Anger is one of the easiest emotions to feel, so when we feel this towards ourselves it can cause a spiraling chain of events in our mind that only brings us down in the end. This can become a habit that you definitely want to break in order to feel more confident about yourself. Just like negative thoughts repeated over in your mind can cause you to feel negative things about yourself, positive thoughts work the same way. Being able to filter through these emotions and thoughts and reason with yourself in a moment of distress is so important to keep your mind as a priority. Teaching your children this can create an amazing outcome because they will have the confidence in themselves that they are good enough and can overcome negative thoughts about themselves.
Along with positive self-talk, showing gratitude on a daily basis is one of the most powerful things that you can do to get your life back on track. If you feel like you’ve been in a funk and lacking confidence, you should first take a look at what you have in your life that makes you feel lucky. Certain things that you feel lucky to have or are grateful for can bring you back to the perspective that “things can be worse”. By appreciating what you have in your life, you can change the Way that you feel on a daily basis for the better. You will stop having this “why me” outlook and start seeing things for how they really are and how positive they can be.
Everybody struggles from time to time trying to figure out who they are and who they want to be. Raising teens and being an adult, in general, can be stressful and make you lose sight of who you are. Melisa wants every individual to know that they have the power within themselves to find confidence and live their life without the fear of not being good enough. You live your life and make every day happen for yourself. She stands by positive self-affirmations, simply telling yourself every day “I am enough. I am smart. I am capable. I am strong. I am loved.” and so on. Seeking approval and satisfaction from someone else is never going to provide you with the feeling of being content with how you live your life. Search for that within yourself and you’ll be living your best life in no time.
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