Description: In this episode Kelli is sharing an interview in which the roles were reversed and SHE was the the guest….and she made her interviewer CRY! You don’t want to miss this powerful conversation on confidence and self talk, and who knows, maybe Kelli can get you to shed a few tears too, .
Kelli has always had an entrepreneur spirit. Kelli says that when she became a mom, she also became an entrepreneur. She got into photography, and began mentoring newbie photographers, she owned a chic grapic tee company, got into the fitness world for a bit, and finally landed where she is now. Kelli says that each venture taught her things and helped her to be successful.
Kelli says that it’s important to define what success means to you. She says to focus on the type of llifestyle you want. Focus on that instead of titles, ranks, income. Because you have have those things and still be unhappy. The world will tell you what success is, but we really have to sit down and figure out what it means for us.
Kelli shares her three C’s to being successful. They are confidence, commitment and consistency. For confidence you have to believe in yourself and in what it is you’re doing. You have to believe that you’ll be successful and show up in that energy.
Confidence is having a loving relationship with yourself.
The way we talk to ourself matters. Kelli had a mean girl living inside her that knew exactly what to say to make her spiral out of control. But then Kelli realized that this mean girl doesn’t have to be a part of us. We can kick her out and change the conversation in our heads.
Kelli wants you to take one day and keep track of the negative thoughts or things we think and say about ourselves. It can be shocking to really open that up and become aware of the things we are thinking about ourselves. Once we become aware, we can start to change that conversation.
Kelli shares 4 things you need to build a loving relationship with yourself. Those things are Trust, Respect (boundaries), Time, and Communication.
Positive affirmations, or power statements as Kelli likes to call them, are super important for changing our self talk. They can feel uncomfortable and like lies sometimes. Kelli’s trick is to play around with them until the feel true or believable. Adding words like, “because” can be helpful or changing it from a finished statement like ” I am fit” to something like ” I am working on becoming healthy.”
The thing with affirmations and power statements is that they can morph and change over time as you evolve and grow. So give yourself permission to make them work for you.
A lot of times we stay stuck because we are afraid of change. We’ll stay in something we don’t like because we are scared to step into the unknown. But success comes from being willing to try new things. It’s okay to be a beginner. It’s okay to fail and mess up. Failure is just a stepping stone.
Thank you so much for listening to this episode! I’m honored and excited to be on this journey toward personal growth and greater confidence with you. If you enjoyed the podcast, I’d love to ask you to take 2 minutes to leave me a 5-star review on your podcast app, that way we can help even more women to join us as we #dropkickyourinnermenagirl together.
P.S. If you’re looking for ways to increase your confidence and silence your inner mean-girl, download my free workbook, 6 Ways to Dropkick Your Inner Mean Girl.