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Description: What could be better than happy? Jody Moore is my guest today and she answers that question and so much more! We dive into her book (which was our book club pick for August) and talk about how we can coach ourselves and become better than happy. 

Let’s dive in! 

Let’s dive in! 

IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN:

• 02:38 What Does Better Than Happy Mean
• 06:11 Learning The Thought Model
• 17:33 Our Thoughts Are Powerful
• 19:17 Exposing Yourself to More Positive than Negative
• 26:20 Clean Pain vs Dirty Pain

WHAT DOES BETTER THAN HAPPY MEAN

There’s nothing wrong with wanting happiness for yourself and your family and things. But what I realized is that happiness is sort of a wimpy goal when it comes right down to it. There’s so many quick fixes of happiness available. Like I could just keep going in my world and in my life and play small but to make the impact I wanna make in the world, I had to be willing to go for something better than happiness, I had to look for growth, for impact for, for myself. First of all, personal growth, seeing what I’m capable of, continuing to learn, being willing to fail and figure out how to deal with that. All of that’s actually better than happiness, which is just, I’ll just keep doing what I’m doing and, and there’s nothing wrong with that.And then there’s time for that too. But I want something better than that in the end. Yeah. So that’s kind of where the title comes from.

LEARNING THE THOUGHT MODEL

This model is the key to everything that I teach. First, we have circumstances, which are the things that happen outside of us, the factual parts of our world, the parts that we would all agree on and those outside circumstances we all observe and we all then have thoughts about.

So the second piece of this five part model is thoughts.The thought is where our agency enters in. It’s where our control enters in. It’s where our ability to make choices enters in. We can’t always control circumstances. What is in our control is how we’re gonna think about them. And knowing that is powerful because the third part is feelings.

Our thoughts are creating our feelings. Our circumstances are not creating our feelings. All of those feelings then are creating our experience of the world. The way we feel is, is like our internal navigation system. And then that also drives the, the fourth part of the model, which is our actions.

Our actions are always fueled by our feelings and all behavior is fueled by a feeling of some kind.

All of that together then creates the fifth part of model, which is the result. The result that you have in your life. So Circumstance> Thought> Feeling >Action> Result.

OUR THOUGHTS ARE POWERFUL

If we understood how powerful our thoughts are in our lives, we would be much more careful with what we think about and what we take in, because what we take into our brains, you’re gonna have to manage that brain, so I do my best to guard it. I don’t wanna take in a bunch of negativity and fear based and scarcity based and judgement as much. I can’t avoid it all together, but I’m gonna do what I can to be. I protect my head. Because how powerful my thoughts are.

EXPOSING YOURSELF TO MORE POSITIVE THAT NEGATIVE

One reason I’m so passionate about this book club is that its a confidence book club to help empower women and to help counteract the negativity that comes in automatically. There is a lot of negative out there and we need to be intentional about counteracting that. You gotta expose yourself to five times more positive than the negative. This book club and podcast are great ways to do that.

CLEAN PAIN VS DIRTY PAIN

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:

• Connect with Jody on Instagram
• Get the book Better Than Happy
• Follow Kelli on Instagram
• Find out more about Kelli Here
• Join the Finally Fearless Book Club Here

Thank you so much for listening to this episode! I’m honored and excited to be on this journey toward personal growth and greater confidence with you. If you enjoyed the podcast, I’d love to ask you to take 2 minutes to leave me a 5-star review on your podcast app, that way we can help even more women to join us as we #dropkickyourinnermenagirl together.

P.S. If you’re looking for ways to increase your confidence and silence your inner mean-girl, download my free workbook, 6 Ways to Dropkick Your Inner Mean Girl.

xo,

kelli