Description: In this episode, Kelli interviews former NFL athlete and author of Identify Shift, Anthony Trucks. Anthony also was an American Ninja Warrior on NBC, is an international speaker, host of the Aww Shift podcast, and the founder of Identity Shift coaching. He teaches how each of us can upgrade how we operate so we can elevate our life and business to reach our full potential. After being given away into foster care at 3 years old, being adopted into an all white family at 14, losing his NFL career to injury and more he learned how to shift at a very young age, and now his life mission is teaching others how to Make Shift Happen in their lives.
The Shift Method Is the proactive process. Anthony says that we usually do the work to change when crap hits the fan or we do it on demand. The truth is, most of us usually wait until those crap hitting the fan moments to react. With the Shift Method you begin shifting perspectives first and then shifting your actions. Anthony teaches a shift on the inside first and then watch the shift happen on the outside. Then you have to sustain and not go back into a zone of comfort. After you have sustained for a while you reach a new level of life, an Identify Shift.
A lot of times we can’t see our blind spots because we don’t want to ask the questions. And we don’t want to ask the questions because we are afraid of or we don’t want the answers. This is why it is so important to get input from people we know well and trust. We need to engage those people in our lives to help us see our blind spots. It’s not an easy process, in fact, Anthony says it can be outright painful, but there is so much growth if we are willing to have the hard conversations and listen to people who love us who can give us insight into the things we might be missing. You know, just like a blind spot!
Most of us weren’t taught to have hard conversations, we weren’t taught how to accept and embrace feedback. Successful people have hard conversations all the time. They are able to take information in without feeling like they are a horrible person. We have got to learn how to take feedback. There is a difference between confrontation and a hard conversation. Feedback isn’t a personal attack and it’s essential that we develop that muscle of being able to take that feedback, look at our blind spots, and begin to adjust and level up. You can’t solve a problem you don’t know exists. We are good at doing the work, but it’s the work that’s comfortable, not the work that we actually need to do.
Anthony said “I had to start being someone different so I could become somebody better.” We have to start doing the things that are physically uncomfortable and mentally uncomfortable. It’s that same idea, the same process of shift on the inside, shift on the outside, then you sustain. But more than that, you have to learn to enjoy the process. If you can figure that out, you will enjoy more of your life because you aren’t always chasing a destination.
We can change hard things to be easier by continuing to do them, and as we do that, we become stronger and then they become easy. It’s true for the body and it’s true to the mind. The more you do something, the more you lean into it, you find a way to be more effective and efficient. You learn over time, by doing, how to do the hard thing and how to make it easy. Anthony also shares the idea of pain on a scale that you measure over time. Something might only be a 1 on a pain scale, but if you do it, or allow it every day for a year….that’s a pain count of 365. Whereas if you have something you need to do but the pain threshold is a 10, you might avoid it. But you only need to do it 7 times to master it, and then you’re done, that’s a pain of 70. So a quick burst of pain or discomfort rather than dragging it out over time.
You take that unconfident action. There are always days that you aren’t going to feel your best. But we have to learn how to do hard things. When you overcome, your confidence grows. Discipline is the most important piece. You have to follow a plan. You can’t stay disciplined if you don’t have a plan.
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