Description: In this episode, Kelli sits down with her daughter Savannah for a heart filled talk about mental health, loving yourself, boundaries, and living a life that doesn’t just look good, it feels good too.
Savannah shares a story from last year when Kelli was feeling super overwhelmed and stressed. Savannah told her mom that she just needed to “half ass it”. Meaning that sometimes you just need to stop trying to do it all and stop taking on everything. Her advice was to leave perfection behind and just half ass things. It’s a way to learn to relax and chill. As a doer and an enneagram 3, this idea was and is really forgein to Kelli, but the idea of half assing things gives you room to breathe.
When you feel like you are running on empty, the most loving thing you can do is to cut some things out. Whether that’s taking things off your to do list, ditching hustle culture, or leaving behind your people pleasing tendencies, cutting some things out and simplifying if even just for a season can be so healthy and healing.
If you don’t take care of your mental health, nothing else even matters. You can’t show up in your life the way you want to. Savannah shares of when she opted for home school her senior year (before the pandemic) and how much she learned about herself, taking care of her mental health, and how to be alone. She shares that when you can be selfish and take care of yourself first, you show up so much better for everyone else around you.
Rest is just as important as work and play. As Kelli has embraced rest more, she calls it “magical”. Rest brings peace, happiness, and meaning because it gives you a chance to stop. You really can’t enjoy your life if you are constantly in a state of GO GO GO. Getting to this place of being able to say no to things hasn’t been easy, especially as an enneagram 3 and recovering people pleaser, but it’s worth putting in the work of learning how to slow down and rest.
Kelli says that confidence is having a loving relationship with yourself. One way to create and cultivate that relationship is through boundaries. If you don’t know your boundaries it becomes easy to run yourself into the ground. Good boundaries include knowing what energizes and depletes you. Savannah also says having good boundaries around basic human needs. Getting good sleep, eating food and not skipping meals, giving yourself time alone to recharge. Kelli shares about having good boundaries around days off and rest days.
Savannah shares that you need to do the things that help you feel good. For her, that includes taking medications for mental health, seeing a therapist and life coach. These are habits that keep her feeling good. Kelli talks about having a clock out time, and also taking time to do “silly” self care things like getting nails and lashes done. Whatever you need to do to help yourself feel better, do them consistently and make time for them.
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